Refer to Step 2: I commit to stop living my life in pursuit of self-defeating behavior.
Many of us prefer to stay at the threshold of the Christian life instead of going on to construct a soul in accordance with the new life God has put within. We fail because we are ignorant of the way we are made. We put things down to the devil instead of our own undisciplined natures. Think what we can be when we are roused!
The single greatest enemy to our recovery is the state of our mind. Because we have been abused, typically we feel defeated and worthless, which is exactly the message our abusers want us to receive. It’s probably one of the reasons they abused us in the first place. Although it’s normal to have feelings of worthlessness as a result of being abused, it’s self-defeating to internalize these feelings and make them part of who you are.
If you want to be a whole person—valuable to yourself and to others—you must renew your mind and reject what your abuser has said about you. Don’t internalize. If you already have, however, make a commitment to renew your mind immediately. The way to do this is simple: accept that God loves you and desires your recovery.
The solution is easy, but summoning the courage and the will to transform your mind may be the most difficult thing you ever do. Plus, it’s not a one-time decision. You must to do it every day—sometimes every hour. It’s hard, but the value of making the effort is incalculable.
If you make the commitment and persevere, over time and slowly, you’ll change and become everything God ever intended you to be. If you don’t, you’ll wallow in mediocrity and self-pity for years, perhaps decades. The choice is yours. Renew your mind, or continue to internalize the lies that others have said about you as the truth.
Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might know the things freely given to us by God. (I Corinthians 2:12)