The wounds from my abuse run deep,
Creating shame, anger, and
An Overwhelming sense of worthlessness
That enervates every area of my life.
With my mouth, I deny this is how I see myself,
But in the recesses of my mind,
I wonder if my abusers are correct about me.
Question: What are the emotions associated with your abuse? How has it affected your self-worth?
Part of recovery—after enduring the initial trauma from your abuse—is determining who you intend to be for the rest of your life. You have to decide whether or not you will be a perpetual victim, or if will you take the necessary steps to become the person you know you were created to be?
Question: Have you given any thought to what type of person you want to be, or have you been content to just drift along through life?
That’s where the value of the 11 steps comes in. It requires a person to go back and resolve the conflicts that created the pain. Although initially difficult, painful conflicts can be resolved and peace restored. All of the broken relationships can finally be put to rest, which rarely happens for most people. There’s no getting around the conciliatory process, which is good.
Make a List: Take a minute and make a list of all the broken relationships you have in your life. Wouldn’t you like to do your part to resolve the problem?
Recovering from a situation where you trusted an abusive authority figure is very difficult. Your soul is burned with scar tissue covering the wound, and you become skeptical and jaded for a long time. Recognizing that this is where you are, however, is the first step in your recovery.
Question: Are you willing to admit that your abuse has caused problems that need resolution?
This is your first step to spiritual freedom. The way to fall in line is by putting everything in God’s hands—especially the outcome, which you have no control over anyway. Look to Him; thank Him for your circumstance; and fall in step. When you do, numerous character qualities will be enhanced within you.
Everybody has trials. Everybody has disappointments. Everybody has failures. It’s what you do with them that counts.
Question: Are you willing to put your life into God’s hands?