Refer to Step 10: I choose to believe God still has a purpose for my life—a purpose for good and not evil.
Loving-kindness is greater than laws; and the charities of life are more than all ceremonies.
Honestly, in our society, there’s no way to tell a Christian from a non-Christian, but that’s not the way it’s supposed to be. The Scriptures say that you can “tell them by their love for one another,” meaning that love for one another should be clearly evident. But that isn’t necessarily the case, is it? There’s no use pretending that it’s true, when it’s not. In fact, the opposite is frequently the case.
Loving one another is not only important; it’s the key to attracting others—not doctrine, not church membership, and not any outward dogmatic manifestation of your faith. Loving one another is how believers and non-believers should be differentiated. The Scriptures say it is by your behavior—the condition of your heart—that reveals who you really are. It’s as clear as the Ten Commandments.
That this characteristic is missing is undeniable, and it’s a far more powerful witness to the world than any promotion a church can muster to generate enthusiasm. If you are demonstrating love, you are projecting a good witness. If you say you have a loving spirit, but it’s not true, that will also leave a lasting witness, which carefully prepared testimonials cannot counteract.
This means you are making an impression no matter what you are doing. If demonstrable love isn’t present, your witness is actually counterproductive. It’s why millions call Christians hypocrites, which is an accurate assessment more often than not.
Because God has shown His love and mercy toward you, it’s natural that you would want to tell others about it. At the same time, if love is not the primary characteristic in your heart, don’t be surprised if your attempts at witnessing ring hollow or actually turn people off.
Since you have in obedience to the truth purified your souls for a sincere love of the brethren, fervently love one another from the heart. (I Peter 1:22)