Refer To STEP 9: I humbly asked God to change anything He wished and asked Him to heal my pain. Because God forgives us as we forgive others, I forgave my abusers.
NOTE: We’re going to spend some time discussing prayer because so many people have confusion about it. I hope this will help. Feel free to send me your comments. I’ll post what you have to say.
The Scriptures tell us to not be conformed to this world but to be transformed. The way to do this is by renewing our minds. If our minds are renewed, we can pray with the correct perspective. But what exactly is involved in renewing your mind?
When you’ve experienced abuse—any abuse—it impacts how you perceive reality. You see things differently—more apprehensively and with less confidence. And to be honest, most who have been abused wonder if God is really in charge or not. They believe it intellectually and doctrinely, but not from their own experience. They just don’t see it. “If He was in charge in an active way, He wouldn’t have let . . . (fill in the blanks).”
That’s where we have to begin our recovery process. We need to renew our minds about this. Until we do, we’ll never get far in our recovery.
Here’s the place we need to get to: God is in charge of everything.
“And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are open and laid bare to the eyes of Him with whom we have to do.”
This is either true, or it isn’t. If you want to have a full and productive life, you need to start by renewing your mind to accept that God is alive and powerful and active in the affairs of mankind. That includes your life, even when you were certain He had abandoned you.