Refer to Step 3: I accept that the responsibility for getting back on track is mine and no one else’s.
Everything that is happening is ultimately for the good, if we’re willing to face it head-on and use our adversities for soul growth.
Shortly after being wounded by religious abuse, friends routinely say, “It will be okay. You just have to trust the Lord; that’s all.” With that, no further practical help is offered. After a while, you no longer receive words of comfort because people tend to withdraw from you. They just can’t handle someone like you who is in such obvious pain. Having no solutions to offer, they don’t want to deal with all of the negativity. Don’t blame them. It’s just the way most people operate.
To you, such advice is meaningless and rarely supportive anyway. Instead of helping, platitudes tend to make a difficult situation become far worse. As people withdraw, deserting you, you are left to deal with the problem alone.
Feeling abandoned, this is when many turn to self-defeating behavior, which provides relief from the pain—a one-day reprieve from reality. It is also how abused people become “hooked” on alcohol, prescription medications, overeating, overspending, or inappropriate relationships—none of which work long-term.
When a person reaches his or her bottom and has run out of options, that’s when they are finally willing to take the advise of their friends and “trust the Lord.” By this point, their emotional isolation has taken a substantial toll, however, and the person doubts his or her life will ever be worthwhile again.
When someone reaches this point, that’s when God’s presence and help become more real than ever. That’s when He touches the places that hurt the most, providing insight, understanding, and healing. Just one thing is necessary for all of this to happen: you must accept that the responsibility for getting back on tract is yours and no one else’s. When you reach this point and become willing to admit this, your life can regain meaning.
Whom have I in heaven but Thee? And besides Thee, I desire nothing on earth. My flesh and my heart may fail; But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever. (Psalm 73:25-26)