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Refer to Step 8: I share my experience with a trusted friend, and I confess to God the exact state of my heart.

 

A confession has to be part of your new life.

—Ludwig Wittgenstein

When you acknowledge the exact nature of your wrongdoing, be specific, open, and completely forthright. Do your best to be totally up-front. If you’re completely honest, the weight of guilt will be broken, freeing you from your emotional imprisonment.

Remember, you are only as “sick as your secrets” and, once they have been confessed, their burden will be lifted; and you’ll be free. If your problems are habitual or addictive, find a support group. There are many available. Do what you need to lift the burden of guilt and shame from your life. After all, haven’t you been confined to your emotional prison long enough?

If you believe you should be shackled, it’s a lie; you don’t. God desires your freedom—even more than you do, and He is eager to restore you to wholeness, to health, and to peace. Take some time to meditate about what you need to confess. Then, shake off your inertia, find a trustworthy friend, schedule a time, and share your experience.

Mustering the courage to actually confess what is troubling you will be difficult but once you’ve completed the task, you will be relieved beyond measure. It’s palpable; there’s nothing like it. If you’re reluctant to proceed, it probably means there’s something still bothering you—something you still need to uncover. If you’re like most, it will not leave you alone until you face it. Stop hesitating and do it. Even if you have to force yourself, make the effort.

When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night Thy hand was heavy upon me; my vitality was drained away as with the fever heat of summer. I acknowledged my sin to Thee, and my iniquity I did not hide; I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the Lord’; and Thou didst forgive the guilt of my sin. (Psalm 32:3-5)

Jack Watts   My Story

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Refer to Step 5: I recognize the only way back to a productive life is exactly the way I came. I have to repair my relationship with God and make amends with everyone I have wronged along the way.

It is never too late to be what you might have been.

—George Elliott

Quite often, when a person invites Christ into his or her life, developing a relationship with God is perceived as having God as an ally—having Him in your corner so to speak. In the person’s simplicity and naiveté, their perception is Almighty God is there to help them further their ends—to help them achieve their goals in life. They operate under this delusion for a while—sometimes a long while—until their carefully constructed world begins to crumble.

Many things can shatter a person’s world, including religious abuse. More than anything, religious abuse can knock the legs right out from under a person. When this happens, all of their grandiose aspirations seem crumble as well.

It’s like blunt force trauma to a person, stopping them dead in their tracks, changing everything. It also knocks the grandiosity out of a person. When it happens, the abused person no longer has ends of his or her own to achieve. Their illusions about themselves have been dashed on the rocks, especially after having been subjected to shame, ridicule, and caustic criticism.

Such a crushing experience impacts a person’s core emotions, producing bitterness, resentment, and a hard heart. Just when the person believes that nothing else good will ever come into their lives, Almighty God comes calling again. Beginning with a gentle whisper, He lets the person know that they were traveling along their own road with their own goals, which were not His.

When that happens, at first the person is shocked, never having considered that he or she had been pursuing goals that were not aligned with God’s. As time goes on, however, and the relentless heartbreak of abusiveness takes its full toll upon the person; they become much more willing to listen to the voice of God.

“I permitted Myself to be sought by those who did not ask for Me; I permitted Myself to be found by those who did not seek Me. I said, ‘Here am I, here am I.’” (Isaiah 65:1)

Jack Watts

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Refer to Step 3: I accept that the responsibility for getting back on track is mine and no one else’s.

 

Many of us prefer to stay at the threshold of the Christian life instead of going on to construct a soul in accordance with the new life God has put within. We fail because we are ignorant of the way we are made. We put things down to the devil instead of our own undisciplined natures. Think what we can be when we are roused!

—Oswald Chambers

The single greatest enemy to our recovery is our state of mind. Because we have been abused, we feel defeated and worthless, which is exactly the message our abusers intend for us to receive. That is probably why they shamed us in the first place. Although it’s normal to have feelings of worthlessness, it’s also self-defeating to internalize them and make them a core part of who you are.

If you want to be a whole person—valuable to yourself and to others—you must renew your mind and reject what your abuser has said about you. Don’t internalize it. If you already have, make a commitment to renew your mind. Reject the false message immediately. When it returns to your thinking—which it will—fight it tooth and nail by turning it over to the Holy Spirit for transformation.

The way to do this is simple: believe God loves you and desires your recovery. The solution is easy, but summoning the will to transform your mind may be the most difficult thing you ever do. Nevertheless, do it as often as needed. You may have to do it every day, perhaps every hour. It’s difficult, but the value of making the effort is incalculable.

If you do this consistently, over time and slowly, you’ll change and become everything you were ever intended you to be. If you don’t, you’ll wallow in mediocrity and self-pity for years, maybe decades. The choice is yours. Renew your mind or accept the lies, which have been said about you as the truth.

And for this reason we also constantly thank God that when you received from us the word of God’s message, you accepted it not as the word of men, but for what it really is, the word of God, which also performs its work in you who believe. (I Thessalonians 2:13)

Jack Watts   Real Prayers for Real People with Real Problems

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Father,

I feel so broken and beaten,

So abused, rejected, and abandoned.

I never thought my life would be like this,

But I was wrong—dead wrong.

In spite of it all,

You’ve been there beside me,

Even in my darkest hours,

Even when I wanted You to leave me alone.

Things have been tough for a long time,

But I’m tired of rehashing my angst.

I want more for my life than to be a perpetual victim.

Help me learn my lessons, which produced my pain,

So that I do not have to repeat them. I don’t want

To waste my years replicating meaningless drama.

Let my foolishness be turned into wisdom

So that others can benefit from my experiences.

In all of my broken places, heal me

With Your tender, loving hand.

I’m ready to move forward,

Without shutting the door on the past,

And the valuable lessons it has produced.

Jack Watts   My Story

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Father, 

In my pain, I have acted in ways I’m ashamed to admit.

I want to keep them secret—to hide them

From You and from everybody else.

I didn’t intend to be like this—

To become the person I know I am,

But my sins have exceeded my coping capacity,

And I am unable to control myself,

Which I foolishly believed I could.

Journal: Take a few minutes and write down the actions you have hidden and want to remain secret. Be thorough and honest. Once you’ve written it, thank God for His forgiveness, and rip up the paper, knowing that you have been forgiven.

Like most infomercials, people’s testimonies are over-sold and under delivered. Because authenticity is missing, many dismiss these testimonies as being overstated, while others reject Christianity because they recognize the hypocrisy of believer. Here’s the question that needs to be answered: Wouldn’t it be better to tell the truth scrupulously, and allow the chips fall where they may, rather than live a life that’s essentially a fraud?

Journal: Write about your Christian testimony, being scrupulously honest.

The thinking behind prayers that ask to be spared from natural consequences isn’t the type of prayer that God answers in the way you want. He simply doesn’t operate that way. God doesn’t deliver you from trouble; He delivers you through trouble.

Journal: Can you think of a time when God walked you through a crisis rather than saving you from it? If so, write about that experience.

This is why the 11-step approach is singular and not plural—I and not we. There is no way for a group to heal your relationship with God. You have to do it that yourself, in the quietness of your own heart. Although each person’s experience may be different, the road back to God isn’t. It’s the same for everybody.

Question: What does the road back to God look like for you? Think about at least three things it entails.

 

After having been abuse, our perspective undergoes a radical change. We begin to learn the simple truth that an act of kindness performed at the right time, for the right reason, may be more meaningful from God’s perspective than something calculated to bring us notoriety, fame, and fortune. We begin to recognize that God values small things—where nothing is expected in return—more than grand things well publicized.

Journal: Think of a time when you performed a selfless act—a kindness performed for no reason other than to help someone else. How did that make you feel? Were you able to keep it to yourself? Were there any long-term ramifications from it?

Jack Watts   Recommended Resources

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Refer to Step 11: I make a commitment to nurture my relationship with the Lord, asking Him to reveal His will to me and to provide me with the power to carry it out.

 

A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves—Amelia Earhart

 

Christianity is brimming with people who want to do great and noble things for God. If you ask them, they’ll tell you how much they are capable of accomplishing. Their aspirations are usually altruistic, noble, and grand. The problem is, more often than not, God doesn’t usually want what they do.

What He wants is for people to do simple, mundane things for others—nothing ostentatious or glamorous. The goal of Christians, who are grandiose, might be to “speak about God’s love to the multitudes,” but that same person might not be willing to run an errand for an indigent person.

That’s the problem. God has far too many men and women who are willing to be exalted, but few who are willing to be menial servants. Many are willing to do grand things, but few are willing to be simple, living their lives unaffectedly just doing the “next right thing” day by day.

In twenty-first century Christian culture, we have a worldly attitude toward service, routinely calculating:

  • What’s in it for me?
  • How will this further my ambitions?
  • How will this enhance my image with others?

After having been abuse, however, where the spiritual wind has been knocked out of us, our perspective undergoes a radical change. We begin to learn the simple truth that an act of kindness performed at the right time, for the right reason, may be more meaningful from God’s perspective than something calculated to bring us notoriety, fame, and fortune. We begin to recognize that God values small things—where nothing is expected in return—more than grand things well publicized. A small thing is a small thing, but faithfulness in doing a small thing is a big thing.

He said to them, “Truly I say to you, this poor widow put in more than all the contibutors to the treasury; for they all put in out of their surplus, but she, out of her poverty, put in all she owned, all she had to live on.” (Mark 12:43-44)

Jack Watts  My Story

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Refer to Step 8: I will share my experience and my own wrongdoing with a trusted friend, confessing the exact state of my heart.

 

Go often to the house of thy friend, for weeds choke the unused path.

—Recovery Slogan

 

When you read the steps for Alcoholics Anonymous or any other 12-step group, you’ll notice that they are plural and not singular. In step 1, it says, “We came to believe” and not “I came to believe.” In recovery from substance abuse, the shared experience of the group is often the most powerful component for achieving sobriety.

In recovery from religious abuse, however, it’s a little different. Although the wounding comes from a religious leader, God is nearly always blamed for the abuse as well. This means the person’s relationship with God becomes the primary problem and the relationship that needs to be mended first. Without getting straight with God, nothing else will work well—that’s for certain.

This is why the 11-step approach is singular and not plural—I and not we. There is no way for a group to heal your relationship with God. You have to do it that yourself, in the quietness of your own heart. Although each person’s experience may be different, the road back to God isn’t. It’s the same for everybody.

At the same time, you will need at least one trusted friend to act as your confidant along the way. Learning to trust God again is essential—so is learning to trust another human being. Both, working together synergistically, will make your journey much less burdensome—and with fewer detours.

Until you’ve accomplished both, nothing else will work very well. When you bring your situation before God, you can be assured He will always be available and accepting. Bringing it before another human is not as easy, but if the person is in tune with God’s will, the end result will definitely be empowering.

 

Therefore, strengthen the hands that are weak and the knees that are feeble, and make straight paths for your feet, so that the limb which is lame may not be put out of joint, but rather be healed. (Hebrews 12:12:13)

Jack Watts   Recovery Resources

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Refer to Step 4: I choose to believe what God says about Himself: that He is good and can be trusted.

If the only prayer you ever say in your whole life is “thank you,” that would suffice.

—Meister Eckhart

When an insurmountable problem or difficult circumstance comes into your life, what do you do?

You pray, but what do you pray for? If you’re like most, you pray for God to spare you from what is about to happen—from the consequences of your actions. That’s the agenda most follow. You want God to rescue you from whatever unpleasantness is about to transpire. Initially, you ask. Then, you beg. Finally, you abandon all of your pretentiousness and plead your case, insisting that God intervene on your behalf.

Then, when your prayer isn’t answered in the way you want, which it usually isn’t, you question God, entertaining all sorts of negative thoughts.

  • Does He really care?
  • Does He think you’re not worth the effort?
  • Is He really active in your life?
  • Why didn’t He come through for you?

But you probably never took a hard look at what you were praying about.

Here’s the problem. The thinking behind prayers that ask to be spared from natural consequences isn’t the type of prayer that God answers in the way you want. He simply doesn’t operate that way. God doesn’t deliver you from trouble; He delivers you through trouble. This isn’t parsing words.

There’s a big difference between the two. If God delivered you from your problems, you would never grow up, and that’s not what He wants for you.

He wants you to be mature, stable, and resilient. He wants you to have childlike faith, but He doesn’t want you to be a perpetual child. Almighty God is not a rescuer—not in a codependent way, and when that’s what you are praying for. When you pray like this, don’t be surprised when your requests are not answered in the way you want.

Because God wants you to be an adult—to attain your full stature as one of His children—He is more intent on having you learn your lessons from self-defeating behavior than anything else. That can only be accomplished by going through troubles, heartaches, disappointments, and suffering.

While you are going through your difficulties, however, He never leaves you, and He never forsakes you. That’s a promise He always keeps. That’s where you learn to trust Him, and it’s also where you learn to grow up.

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:6-7)

Jack Watts  Real Prayers for Real People with Real Problems

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Refer to Step 2: I refuse to continue living my life pursuing self-defeating behavior.

It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life to perfection. 

—Ancient Yogic saying

The central focus of Christianity is about a person developing a relationship with Almighty God. This relationship is defined as a personal, intimate one, which is eternally safe and secure. As such, the literature describing God’s nature and Man’s nature is deep and authentic, especially when it comes to how sinful men and women relate to a holy God.

It’s why the Scriptures are so rich with wisdom—God’s revealed wisdom.

At the same time, Christianity in America, especially in the twenty-first century, has many commonly held assumptions, which contradict biblical teaching and the reality of life. One of these false assumptions is that, once a person invites Christ to come into his or her life, all of their self-defeating behavior changes quickly and permanently. That definitely isn’t true, and it places a legalistic, defeating burden on all new converts.

Nevertheless, churches parade new converts in front of the entire church to “give their testimony” regularly. Like an infomercial, these testimonies exaggerate the truth as much as a middle-aged man exaggerates how far he jogs. Invariably, the person giving the testimony overstates the depth of their depravity before inviting Christ to come into his or her life. With equal hyperbole, the person describes how exemplary they have become since becoming “born again.” There is no rigorous honesty to any of it. It is ineffective and disingenuous, despite the efforts of evangelists to manipulate the process.

What’s real is real. Exaggeration doesn’t work; truth does.

The goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith. (I Timothy 1:5)

Jack Watts   My “Testimony”

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Father,

Having been wounded at the core of my being,

I have stopped seeking You,

Stopped praying, stopped looking to You

For wisdom, guidance, and discernment.

I haven’t wanted anything to do with You.

I’ve been so angry, so hurt, so humiliated.

In my pain, I have acted in shameful ways,

Which I have attempted to keep secret,

To hide from You and from everybody else.

I didn’t intend to be like this—

To be the person I know I have become,

But my sins have exceeded my capacity to deny,

And I am unable to control myself,

Which I foolishly believed I could.

My self-defeating behavior consumes me,

And I can no longer hide from the truth.

I am weary of hanging my head in shame—

Of churning my anger and bitterness.

I know I have fed my rebellious spirit,

But I don’t want my future to be controlled by the past.

I want to change—to regain control of my life.

I am in a deep pit, from which there seems no escape.

I have often blamed others for my plight,

Choosing to embrace the role of a victim,

Convincing myself that I have been faultless,

But I can no longer justify my poor behavior.

I have been wrong and need to admit it to You and to others.

Help me, Lord. Cleanse me and restore me to wholeness.

Jack Watts   My Story

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Father,

There is nobody who can help but You.

The “Be warmed and be filled crowd”

Smile and offer meaningless platitudes,

As I nurse the emotional wounds

That I fear will destroy me.

I want to serve You with gladness,

But there is none in me—

Nothing that could sustain me for more

Than a few moments at a time.

I don’t want to be a plastic automaton,

And pretend that everything is okay,

When I know things are dreadfully wrong.

Question: How often have you felt like this? Quite often, or just occasionally? Most feel like this at one time or another, and nearly everybody who has been abused does.

Joy will return to you but in a different, far more meaningful way. It will be tempered with humility, discernment, and wisdom. This is not an idealistic outcome. It can be your experience, if you allow God’s healing touch to restore you. You’ll be more valuable than you ever imagined.

Question: Do you believe this is true or not? Is it a realistic assessment or simply idealistic? Be honest with yourself about what you really believe.

God’s Kingdom—the only place that really matters—does not belong to those who are beautiful, successful, or wealthy. It belongs to those who are broken—to those who have been crushed, discarded, and cast aside. It belongs to those whom the more affluent consider to be expendable and useless. When you first experienced your abuse, isn’t that how you felt—broken, humiliated, and discarded? Even if your abusive experience was some time ago, is this description still occasionally accurate?

Question: Answer the questions asked in the paragraph above.

Many actually prefer to blame those who “screwed up” their lives than to do something positive to reconstruct them. It’s much easier to be a victim than someone who says, Thank you, Lord. I don’t know why this has happened but, in spite of my situation, I want to learn everything I can from it. Give me insight and wisdom so that, when this episode is complete, every fiber of my being can radiate love, joy, peace, patience, and kindness.

Journal: If this were your prayer, what would you have learned about your abuse so far? Write about it.

If Christ is the answer, and He is, then any question should be viewed as an opportunity to lift Him up—not to use Him to put others down. If you don’t have the answers, being vulnerable and admitting the truth is a much better way to handle the situation than by feigning wisdom that you don’t possess. It not only makes you look foolish, it enervates God’s way, which is real and substantive.

Journal: Write about how you deal with questions that conflict with your belief system. Be forthright. If they rattle you, admit it, and ask God to help you in this critical area.

Jack Watts   Recovery Resources

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Refer to Step 11I make a commitment to nurture my relationship with the Lord, asking Him to reveal His will to me and to provide me with the power to carry it out.

We practice in life what we truly believe. Everything else is just religious talk.

—Peter Lord

Intellectually and philosophically, Christianity is time-weathered, profound, and enduring. It’s not a simplistic worldview. The literature upon which the Judeo-Christian heritage rests is unsurpassed, requiring no apology. For two millennia, it has adequately answered nearly every question asked by friend or foe.

At the same time, most Christians in the twenty-first century are unable to emotionally handle legitimate questions. Instead, they want simple, easy-to-understand answers for everything. They refuse to think about anything taxing. Issue that questions their faith, often trigger angry, insecure responses, which can be seen in the social media.

This is unfortunate. It’s not the way Christ handled things and, if we are to be like Him, it’s not the way we should handle things either. If Christ is the answer, and He is, then any question should be viewed as an opportunity to lift Him up—not to use Him to put another down. If you don’t have the answers, being vulnerable and admitting the truth is a much better way to handle the situation than by feigning wisdom you don’t possess.

This not only makes you look foolish it also enervates God’s truth, which is real and substantive. There’s nothing wrong with not having all of the answers. Even if you’re monumentally ignorant, that’s okay. What isn’t okay is pretending to know things you don’t.

Remember, most of Christ’s original followers were ignorant. Nevertheless, they changed the world. Our generation can as well but, before this can happen, you and I must strengthen the inner man by allowing the Holy Spirit to transform us. Without this, we’re destined to have thoughts no deeper than bumper sticker slogans, Facebook posts, or tee shirt platitudes, which have little value, while frequently offending the people we are attempting to reach.

But sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to every one who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence. (I Peter 3:5)

Jack Watts   Recovery Resources

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Refer to Step 8: I will share my experience and my own wrongdoing with a trusted friend, confessing the exact state of my heart.

 

Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only of standing still.

—Chinese Proverb

Most of us prefer to live on the borders of recovery rather than to do the work necessary to be the kind of men or women we were intended to be. We desire to be strong, confident, capable, and resilient, but doing the hard work to achieve it isn’t something most people in recovery are willing to do.

It’s much easier to indulge in self-pity and whine about how difficult our lot in life is than to do something about it. Many prefer to blame those who “did this to me” than to do engage in positive reconstruction. It’s easier to be a victim than someone who says, “Thank you, Lord. I don’t know why this has happened but, in spite of my situation, I want to learn everything I can from it. Give me insight and wisdom so that, when this episode is complete, every fiber of my being can radiate love, joy, peace, patience, and kindness.”

Developing a positive attitude like this is hard, especially if it’s “new territory.” It’s tough even if you’ve done it previously, but it’s particularly difficult the first time. Nevertheless, this is precisely what you need to do to arrest self-defeating attitudes and behavior, and it’s definitely the road to take for recovery.

Confiding in another person can really help. Recovery can be a lonely road but, if you can find a trustworthy confidant, your journey will be much easier. With the help of another, you’re far more likely to get to the toot of your issues, which will allow you to stop living on the fringes of recovery. Having such a friend can also prevent you from nurturing self-pity. When choosing such a person, be certain to insist that he or she confront you when you are feeling sorry for yourself. Calling you on “your stuff” will make you feel uncomfortable, perhaps even irritable, but it definitely will help keep you on the right track.

Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)

Jack Watts

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Refer to Step 6: I make a commitment to turn away from my pride and refuse to become like those who have abused me. I abandon my desire to spread malice because of my pain and anger, and I chose to relinquish my right to be self-absorbed.

What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us.

—Ralph Waldo Emerson

Here is a question for you: to whom does the Kingdom of God belong? This isn’t rhetorical. Understanding the answer is the key to your recovery, and you’ll flounder until you grasp the answer.

It belongs to the poor in spirit—to people who don’t think more highly of themselves than they ought to think. It belongs to paupers. The politically correct term for this would probably be “the homeless.”

God’s Kingdom—the only place that really matters—does not belong to those who are beautiful, successful, or wealthy. It belongs to those who are broken—to those who have been crushed, discarded, and cast aside. It belongs to those whom the more affluent consider to be expendable and useless.

When you first experienced your abuse, isn’t that how you felt—broken, humiliated, and discarded? Even if your abusive experience was some time ago, isn’t this description still occasionally accurate?

If so, then the Kingdom of God belongs to you. Or, more accurately, it can belong to you. Your experience has probably left you spiritually bankrupt, which can be helpful. It means you’re half way there, but that’s all—just half way. In some ways, it’s the most difficult half. Having been abused and shattered, you know what it’s like to have your spirit broken. The difficult part is realizing that this was a good for you and not bad.

It allowed you to recognize suffering in others and allows you to be less self-centered. It makes you more interested in your fellow human beingss. By having experienced abuse, you can develop empathy and compassion for others, which are character qualities woefully lacking in most modern day Christians.

The righteous cry and the Lord hears, and delivers him out of all his troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:17-18)

Jack Watts

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Refer to Step 4: I choose to believe what God says about Himself: that He is good and can be trusted. I recognize that God is not the abuser; rather, people who misuse their authority are the abusers.

I do not want to die . . . until I have faithfully made the most of my talent and cultivated the seed that was placed in me until the last small twig has grown.

—Kathe Kollwitz

For most people, after being subjected to a pattern of verbal and emotional abuse and—occasionally physical, sexual or financial abuse—life never really returns to health and normalcy. Deep emotional scars cripple the abused person to the point that his or her life never regains the richness, fullness, or contentment it once exhibited.

It doesn’t have to be this way, however, and this type of outcome is most definitely not God’s will. God loves you exactly the way you are—in your brokenness, in your despair, and in your uncertainty. He has not given you a spirit of fear. That comes from being abused and not from Him.

He has given you a spirit of love, power, and of a disciplined, sound mind. It resides just below the surface of your troubled heart, waiting for you to do the work necessary to appropriate the inner power that rightfully belongs to you—just as it does with all of God’s children.

It’s not easy regaining your composure after experiencing deep wounds from being abused; but if you do the work necessary to heal, you will not be as good as you once were. You will be better—perhaps much better.

Joy will return to you but in a different, far more meaningful way. It will be tempered with humility, discernment, and wisdom. This is not an idealistic outcome. It can be your experience, if you allow God’s healing touch to restore you. You’ll be more valuable than you ever imagined.

I’m not guessing about the outcome. I’ve seen it happen repeatedly. The choice is yours. You can go through life crippled by your debilitating abusive experience, or you can allow God to use it to become everything He ever intended you to be.

For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline. (I Timothy 1:7)

Jack Watts   My Story

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