Refer to Step 8: I share my experience with a trusted friend, and I confess to God the exact state of my heart.
A confession has to be part of your new life.
When you acknowledge the exact nature of your wrongdoing, be specific, open, and completely forthright. Do your best to be totally up-front. If you’re completely honest, the weight of guilt will be broken, freeing you from your emotional imprisonment.
Remember, you are only as “sick as your secrets” and, once they have been confessed, their burden will be lifted; and you’ll be free. If your problems are habitual or addictive, find a support group. There are many available. Do what you need to lift the burden of guilt and shame from your life. After all, haven’t you been confined to your emotional prison long enough?
If you believe you should be shackled, it’s a lie; you don’t. God desires your freedom—even more than you do, and He is eager to restore you to wholeness, to health, and to peace. Take some time to meditate about what you need to confess. Then, shake off your inertia, find a trustworthy friend, schedule a time, and share your experience.
Mustering the courage to actually confess what is troubling you will be difficult but once you’ve completed the task, you will be relieved beyond measure. It’s palpable; there’s nothing like it. If you’re reluctant to proceed, it probably means there’s something still bothering you—something you still need to uncover. If you’re like most, it will not leave you alone until you face it. Stop hesitating and do it. Even if you have to force yourself, make the effort.
When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night Thy hand was heavy upon me; my vitality was drained away as with the fever heat of summer. I acknowledged my sin to Thee, and my iniquity I did not hide; I said, ‘I will confess my transgressions to the Lord’; and Thou didst forgive the guilt of my sin. (Psalm 32:3-5)