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Being There for Another
Refer to Step 8: I will share my experience and my own wrongdoing with a trusted friend, confessing the exact state of my heart.
We are attracted to people who share in our growth and progress and lose interest in those who don’t.
Becoming a Christian is easy. All that is required is the willingness to accept what has been freely provided. The Lord has done everything necessary, which is what grace is all about. The only thing you or can do is make His efforts more desirable to others or less.
Because so many Christians are smug and self-righteous, legalistic and condemning, haughty and judgmental—not nearly as many non-believers are attracted to a life of faith as there should be. Sadly, all of us know the people I’m describing: the ones Christ displayed anger toward—the heartlessly religiously self-righteous crowd.
The lives of people like these reveal a version of Christ that is not found in the New Testament—not even close. Yet, these are the people most feared in Christianity—just like the Pharisees were the most feared in Christ’s day. The bitter sting from the tongue of Christian legalists keeps many from embracing God’s mercy, love, and acceptance. The only legitimate fruit they display is self-control—except for their biting, acerbic tongue.
Not being like them is part of what your recovery is all about. If you display love, joy, long suffering, and a genuine concern for those in need; then you are being faithful to God’s will. That’s very attractive to wounded, hurting people—people desperate for answers. By being there for someone who needs you to aid their recovery—just like someone was there for you—you will bless not only them but also yourself.
Your future behavior is in your hands. If you are smug and self-satisfied, you will have a great impact—all negative. If you display love and graciousness, you’ll also have a greater impact, which will be all positive.
Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cleave to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer, contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality Bless those who persecute you; bless and curse not. (Romans 12:9-14)
—Jack Watts Recovery Resources
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