Forgiving Your Abuser
My daily sobriety is contingent on my spiritual condition—AA Slogan
Now that I’ve opened up completely,
Being as honest and transparent as I know how to be,
Having also admitted my faults to another,
I ask that You heal my pain completely.
Change anything in me that You desire.
You are Almighty God; and I am not.
I know how powerless I am to control
What will happen in my future.
Father, I’m weary of walking a path
That has not been ordained by You.
To complete the process of purging my life
From all that remains toxic to my soul,
I recognize there is one final step I need to take.
It is the step I intend to make right now.
Father, I forgive those who have abused me—
Totally, completely, irreversibly, and forever.
Just as You have forgiven me—I forgive them,
Releasing them—just as I have been released.
I have churned anger and bitterness in my soul
For far too long, paying a heavy price
For maintaining a grudge and refusing to forgive.
Foolishly, I believed I was chastising my abusers
By spitefully withholding my pardon,
But the only person I have punished is myself.
I realize this and no longer desire bitterness to nurture me.
Give me the strength to lay aside my anger and my acrimony.
Allow me to walk into the future unencumbered
By the debilitating shackles that have enslaved me for so long,
How great is Thy goodness, which Thou has stored up for those who fear Thee, which Thou hast wrought for those who take refuge in Thee, before the sons of men! Thou dost hide them in the secret place of Thy presence from the conspiracies of man; Thou dost keep them secretly in a shelter from the strife of tongues. (Psalm 31:19-20)